To love what is, we can just accept where we’re at and move from that space. We often resist that though, because we’re:
- Not enough
- Not worth
- Not loveable
We wonder how someone can love us when we can’t even love ourselves. We can’t see our own beauty and we sit in judgement, noticing our own faults first.
We choose to see what’s wrong over what’s right. We analysis how we aren’t a nice person, sometimes throwing in…but I can do it sometimes. Kinda off guard, flippant and dismissive.
We love that person because of what they believe about us. How they see us, and then we borrow that belief, because they’re a good person – they can’t be wrong…but perhaps they’re not right all the time, but we choose to believe.
We allow space for that love to grow, we anchor into what feels good and we enjoy the laughter – they see us and this can be scary. This is where vulnerability hurts. We can be vulnerable and risk that they won’t love us any more or we can be vulnerable and not like who we are.
Which one is tougher?
We love on ourselves in those moments. We have the opportunity to love on ourselves. We can sit with the moments, play with them, ruminate on them. We can throw our thought out into the world and wonder when it going to boomerang around and hit us in the face…which it often doesn’t.
We learn to trust. We learn to be more vulnerable, put more out into the world and we anchor into more love and acceptance for who we are – even though that ground underneath us feels cracked and we might slip right through it.
We love, because it feels good.
We love, because we long for connection.
We love, because it teaches us to love ourselves.
Letting go of the stories of who we ‘should be’ and ‘how our life should be’ is the toughest part.
Our life just is.
We get to design it, we get to choose, but we live what is.
We can only change who we are, what we say yes to, what we’re drawn to and be a part of what we need to move through.
Love, acceptance and forgiveness – love what is.
