#selflove is a gift to you and your family

Create more #selflove in your life

People look at me blankly when I tell them they need more #selflove in their lives. Here’s a conversation I have all the time 🙂

My Friend: What’s that?? (she’s brave, some people just smile and move on to conversations about the weather)

Me: You know, taking time out for yourself – putting yourself first.

My Friend: Oh I can’t do that – I don’t have time. My family need me, and taking time for myself, well – that’s really selfish.

Me: Ohhhh that’s an interesting story!

My Friend: Besides, I hang out with the girls every week, we have a few wines and a lots of laughs – that’s my #selflove time.

Me: Great, and do you enjoy that?

My Friend: Yeah of course, they’re gorgeous people and we always have a laugh. I do come home exhausted though and you know what, I probably drink more than I should…hmmm. Do you think that’s #selflove time?

Me: It can be. The thing with #selflove time is that it fills your soul, it’s a journey of discovery, you feel calm, relaxed and have a knowing that you’re right where you should be. That being said some days are harder than others because growth can be tricky and remember, its the stories that you’re telling yourself that create the trickiness.

My Friend: Hmmm, interesting. Did I hear you right, did you say every day?

Me: Yeah, its something I encourage my clients to do everyday – what do you think about that?

My Friend: Oh I totally don’t have the time to do that every day.

I was talking to another friend last week. She takes time out every 4 years and goes travelling for a couple of months. She told me that was her #selflove time. I asked her how she feels now, knowing that her trip is at the end of the year and she’s been waiting for 3.5 years to take the time out – for herself, – ’Tired’.

I take time for myself every day. In the early days, when Chris first came along, this was called ‘Snooze-time’ (my nickname is Snooze or Snoozen because I love sleep!). If I didn’t get this time I’d become a bit crazy – like a caged animal ha ha. These days I call it my #soulhour. It can be an hour or 2 hours or 5 minutes, but its time I intentionally take for myself.

What I love about my #soulhour is how it evolves. 

For the last 15 days I’ve been diving into a 30 day morning routine with a small group of women. Whilst I’ve had a #soulhour (on and off) for over 5 years now, doing it with these women has definitely elevated my experience, deepened my connection to self, opened my eyes to incredibly soulful experiences and created, what I would describe as, a heart connection across the world.

I only knew one person in the group when I said yes, and that was Anne the organiser – and to be honest, I met Anne sometime in February online. Anne, knew that she wanted to create a morning routine for herself but that she wasn’t committing to it. So she created an offer in her business group and I dove in, so did 8 other souls.

We each decided how our morning routine would look – the activities we would take. Mine (of course) ran across the day, with:

  • Prayer (a new thing for me)
  • Gratitude
  • Journalling in the Michelle Obama Becoming journal
  • Meditation
  • Reiki and
  • More journalling (a specific prompt). 

Then doing movement through the day – walking, hill climbing or yoga, even painting some days! And at night reading – an old habit that’s become new again and I’m loving it!

We committed to each other in the Facebook group via a video…yes that scares a lot of people, and we check in each week via a zoom call.

We’re 15 days in and what I’m loving is the fluid movement of my #soulhour. Today, being a Sunday, I said my prayers and then dove into Wim Hoff’s breathing exercises – I tell myself this is my meditation. Then Teddy asked me if we could do drawing, so I went and drew with him. My exercise was cleaning our home and tonight I’ll squeeze in some reading. And that’s enough.

When I started my #soulhour 5 years ago, I felt like I had to fight for it – perhaps with myself but also with others. I had to explain what I was doing and why, and the answer was always the same ‘because I’m a better person when I do it’. 

I am a better person because of it, and that doesn’t mean I was a bad person before, I’m just a better version of that kind, thoughtful and loving person I used to be. And now, because I do my #soulhour, I have even more to give. My cup isn’t empty, I’m not licking the chocolate wrapper when everyone has had their fill and I’ve waited diligently for my piece…and I get the crumbs, I’m not desperate for a hot chocolate (you can insert coffee here) just to ‘wake up’ and ‘get through the next hour’.

Yes, you’ll tell me you don’t have time and yes you’ll tell me that meditation doesn’t work for you and yes you’ll tell me it’s selfish. But I’ll tell you its the best gift you can give yourself and the best gift you can give your loved ones. Isn’t that worth exploring? xo

In July, I’ll be running 30 days of #selflove. This is a free group program where you define what your #selflove #soulhour looks like, we’ll commit to it with other like minded people, and we’ll grow.

If you think this is something you’d be interested in, email me at hello@susanscollen.com 


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