Years ago my Dad said to me ‘you work hard all week, going to the gym and eating well, then on the weekend you blow it. I don’t get it’.
My Dad’s a considered man. When I say that, I mean he’s lovely, kind and thoughtful and rarely does he say things that make me re-look at what I’m doing. I guess having 5 children (3 of them girls) tells you that they’re going to make their own decisions, some good, some not so good, but at the end of the day if they’re all ok, he was ok.
He did always ask for ‘good children’ for his birthday and father’s day – actually he still does.
At the time I didn’t really do anything with the statement but I’ve never forgotten it.
As we work through life, things come back to remind us and lately I’ve been hanging out with my Dad’s words and another quote (I’m not sure where it comes from) ‘how you do one thing is how you do everything’. It reminds me to show up in every area of my life.
- If I want epic relationships, then I need to create them.
- If I want a thriving business, then I need to create it
- If I want to be healthy and fit, then it’s up to me to show up and do the work.
So what’s the point of this blog, well if you follow me on social media you know a lot about my life. Whilst I have a lot on, it’s pretty simple:
- Chris, Teddy, family & friends
- Fitness, eating well, stretching, meditation, netball etc.
- Building my health and wellness brand
If I focus on doing those things well, then the achievement of my goals is inevitable right?
But what about the achievement of your goals? What good is it if I achieve my goals but you don’t achieve or start working towards your goals? Now our goals aren’t directly linked by any means, but I work on the philosophy that ‘everything is connected’ so if you’re in my life then our goals are connected by that 1 thread.
So to support you (and me), I want you to consider that when we say to ourselves that:
- We’ve done enough, its ok to go and sit on the couch for 5 (which turns into 2 hours and boy that movie was sooo good/disturbing/funny) – have you shown up for your dreams today?
- Everything in moderation, so its ok for me to have that chocolate bar/chips/popcorn – even though I had some yesterday, and the day before that and the day before that – but my goal is to be fit and healthy so I can be an example of what’s possible to my kids – are you showing up for your dreams in that moment?
- I don’t have to get out of bed to go to the gym today, because I went yesterday and that’s enough – is that showing up for your goal and your dream?
- You worked really hard at netball today and you had a good win, time for that champagne!! – is that really what you want after a game?
There are so many more and for me its been a real process to move through these discussions in my head.
So how do I work through this and keep moving. One of the important components has been picking 1 thing, asking myself ‘do I really want to do/eat/be this anymore?’ and what came up with the netball/champers was ‘but its part of the activities after the game’ and when I dug in some more its not the champers I enjoy, it’s the girls, so do I need to drink – no.
I now don’t drink alcohol. I choose not to drink alcohol. I used to contribute financially to the team champagne fund but I was told I’m not allowed to until I have a glass. I get offered a glass every week and I say ‘thank you but no thanks’ – Lesa (champagne bringer and pourer) and I laugh, we have a new thing.
My not drinking champers after a netball game has been 4 years in the making, and this season I’m pretty sure I won’t bother having a glass period. Last season I brought a bottle of Moet to the grand final dinner, I didn’t drink that but I did have half a glass of Bollinger – it would be rude not to right?? ha ha
You can definitely create massive change in your life but you can also do it slowly. If you told me in my 20’s (big drinking years!) that I wouldn’t be drinking now I would have told you that you were being ridiculous.
Is not drinking in line with my health and wellness goals – hell yes!!
Do I care if you drink – nope, do what’s right for you.
But just know, if you come to my home, best to BYO because besides a couple of beers in the fridge for when Shane comes to visit, I think that’s it.
So what’s 1 thing you want to change, or is it 100 things? Pick 1, ask the question ‘how is this serving me?’ and ‘is this in alignment with my dreams?’. You’ll get the answer and its from that space you can choose to move xo