We all want life to be easy.
- Why does Cherry speak so loudly everyone can hear her business – doesn’t she know ‘we don’t care?’
- Why does my Mum have to be so difficult when it comes to Christmas lunch, it’s not like we don’t have our own family obligations too.
- Why does my brother always pick a fight with my husband, we know they polar opposites, why doesn’t he get it?
- Why does food labelling have to be so detailed – can you just tell me what I’m eating and if it’s actually good for my body?
- Why can’t I have a wine in peace without the kids always wanting me?
Thinking about your life, what do you want to be easy? Or what do you find hard about life? Is it:
- There’s never enough time, or
- I’m over cooking day in and day out
- The washing never stops
- I love my job but I just want it to slow down
- Lockdown has really taken it out of me, I need a break and I still can’t leave my home
There are so many ways we’re impacted in our lives – our relationships, our home life, our careers, my puppy wanting to go back inside as I sit outside and write this etc.
In the moment it can seem like it never ends, but in reality there are those moments of quiet that we might miss.
And we think easy is the opposite of hard, but what if the opposite of hard was actually open? Being open in any minute not thinking ‘oh this is so hard’ or ‘life is so hard’.
Companies have made billions out of making things easier for us, think washing machines, dishwashers, robot vacuums and pool cleaners, cars that can literally drive for us now – we don’t even have to use our brains aside from get in, set the GPS and start the engine.
We can buy easy wherever we go. Which is wonderful and it can be challenging.
I’ve been looking at swimwear, I’d like some new swimmers and I want to purchase them from conscious companies.
There are heaps of them out there, but finding a style that I’d wear and one that does cost $300+ is my current challenge.
Also, I’ve recently started wondering about clothing that’s made from recycled plastics. I love the concept and I’m pretty sure my last bikini was made out of them, but that ‘recycled plastic’ has to come from somewhere.
In a recent documentary I watched, they said 1 million plastic bottles of water are sold every minute. So there’s a lot of plastic out there.
Personally I choose to use my S’well water bottle that’s metal and I can recycle it when it’s no longer working – my last S’well water bottle had to be replaced because I dropped it one too many times and I didn’t stand up anymore – needless to say I’m very protective of my current water bottle and it’s doing well after 12 months.
Now I’m also human, so sometimes I get caught without water and I do buy water bottles in plastic – I’m not perfect.
So whilst I’m all for buying clothes made from ‘recycled plastics’, I’m also all for not adding to the problem too.
Which means when I’m looking for swimwear, it’s tough because swimwear is largely made from man made fibres that don’t break down like natural fibres do. Plus the pool chemicals, in our case magnesium – which does have some chlorine in it too, break down the fibres quicker, which is why you should always rinse your swimmers out after you wear them.
And can I just add that finding swimwear 1. That you like and 2. That fits you is near impossible.
Agghhhhhh did you find that tough just to read?
It’s kinda at the point where we give up, head to our local shopping mall and buy the first pair we find right?
I say this nicely, but that’s kinda what retailers are hoping you’ll do – find the easy option and (they light up when you get in the door) they’re here to help!
In all honestly, and this is a general statement, they’re here to sell you what you need – great thank you, but are you buying what you want?
Easy is our brains telling us that we don’t have to change, that it’s ok to do what we’ve always done, but nothing changes if nothing changes, and your here because you want to evolve, you want to change and it can seem really overwhelming – I get it, I was there too and now I’m talking about swimwear when I used to go to Kmart and buy a pair because they fit and I didn’t have to think – not a bad option right?
So take some time, just five minutes and ask yourself:
- What do I really want in life?
- What do I really want in my relationships?
- What do I really want in my career?
- What do I really want for my health?
Often we know only what we can see, which is a bit like dressing our outdoor area. For now I can see the fairy lights on the roof (tick I hung them this weekend – YAY), our table desperately needs chairs and to not be the ‘dumping ground’ (tick I brought them last weekend – they’ll hopefully arrive next week, and Chris cleared off the table). Then I’m thinking we need an outdoor lounge to go where the outdoor movie screen is going (Chris’ dream), but I’ve started with the fairy lights and the chairs, and then I’ll see what’s next.
Do the same with your dreams – what can you see? Go and do that thing, then the next thing will come to you – just like stepping stones that appear one step at a time.
None of this will be easy, trust me, I just wanted to put the fairy lights up but Chris had me measure them up so the lines were straight – good idea by him, but trust me my brain was saying ‘really, I don’t want to, that’s going to make it ‘hard’ and I wanted this to be ‘easy.’
Your brain will say the same thing as well – and that’s ok, we can simply choose again and work toward our dreams, one step at a time.
