Living in alignment isn’t hard but it isn’t easy either.
Much like eating for our body with foods that make us feel well verses foods that don’t make us feel well.
Living in alignment requires us to say no to things and we’re not always good at saying no. It can also requires us to sit with decisions, not make them on the spot because we need more time verses making the person happy in the moment.
I hate being woken up.
I love to wake up of my own accord, feeling refreshed or not, but just waking up when my body tells me it’s time to wake up.
I love not having to get out of bed for anything, knowing that I have things on for my day but I get to choose when I actually get out of bed.
I’ve been thinking about sometimes foods. As I move into kicking my ice cream addiction – that came into full swing after I let go of chocolate for 12 months (I’m 6 months in), I wondered what I wanted my ice cream journey to look like.
Sometimes food.
Ice cream is now a sometimes food for me.
On 31 December 2020, I asked myself ‘what’s one thing, that if you did it for 365 days, would make the biggest difference in your life?’
Giving up chocolate.
Was the answer.
In the last few days the word betrayal has come up twice when talking about events that have happened in my life.
I was betrayed by someone who I would have expect had my back and was my biggest champion and someone who is a friend.
Routines are things we set up for our children. We know they naturally crave them and thrive when they have routine around them.
Then somewhere along the road as adults, we either lose our routines or we think they don’t matter or we use them some of the time – but we become complacent and wonder why things are ‘out of wack’.
The fear of failure has stopped me saying anything, but it’s been slowly leaking out over many channels recently and I’m on a radio show in the US tomorrow…and based on another podcast interview last week…I will just spill the beans.
Our mind, body and soul can only give so much before we’re empty and depleted – passed out on the bed crying from exhaustion.
We tell ourselves that we have to keep showing up because if we don’t – no one else will and we can be judgy, cranky, rude, resentful, mean…to ourselves, to the people in our home and we look for the people outside of our immediate family to make us feel better.
Every human has needs, but there are six that are the foundational to why you do what you do at your core.
Every move and every decision you make can be driven by these needs and it’s fun to watch how you’ve anchored your choices against them in the past and how you continue to do so.
Why don’t you love me?
Why do you put clothes on me that don’t fit properly or have holes in them or that you should have thrown out 4 years ago?
Why do you put food in me that makes me work harder to remove them, rather than eating foods that make things easier so I can support all the parts of you?
When we push (ego) to create something we’re pushing from a place of lack.
We’re pushing from a ‘not enough’ space.
We’re not enough.
(Note, You can also insert I, me, he, she, herself, you, it, that, they, each, few, many, who, whoever, whose, someone, everybody – whatever works for you)
Love him right where he’s at.
Don’t ask him to do things for you out of requirement or expectation or to score points.
Let go of all expectations like ‘he should know I/we need…’ or ‘he should just get it’ or ‘he’s part of this family too’