We can think, that when we achieve a goal we’ll never feel the way we do right now again.
It’s just not true.
We’re human and human stuff happens.
As we go about our day, clothes, food, jewellery, holidays are all being marketed to us – oh I mean advertised and we can decide if we pay attention or not.
Whether you’re watching the TV – even the channels you pay for, listening to music on Spotify, watching a YouTube video, listening to your favourite podcast, hanging out on social media or visiting your favourite website and then going to social media or to google – only to see the most recent promotion for that movie, restaurant, car etc. you were just checking out.
And you often have to see something 7-10 times before you actually click ‘buy’, so those ads are going to keep coming, but are they being honest with you?
When we see a green tick or rolling hills with a healthy looking cow on the packaging, a succulent burger with lots of veggies placed perfectly on it or an Icelandic Fiord with someone sipping a crystal clear drink next to it – be it water or alcohol, is that truly where its made and under those conditions? This is green washing.
Are they being truthful or are they telling you what you want to hear?
Who are you? It’s easy to explain what you do – I’m a Mum, Wife, Health Coach, and I can tell you what attributes I have – I work hard to achieve my goals, I’m kind, curious, I come from a place of love, I’m a good listener and I want you to live the best life you can.
But who are you? At our core, we’re a soul – that thing we know is there but we can’t see or touch. Much like anger, love, frustration, happiness – it’s something we know is there but we can’t see or touch it.
Our human bodies feel those emotions, and can act out in according to those emotions – smiling at someone, giving them a hug, crying, punching someone, but much like our soul we can’t physically see and touch it – we have to believe in it.
I like to call this my intuition guiding me and if I don’t follow I get a kick up the butt!
Often we’ll see or feel signs. Something will happen, you’ll see repeat patterns or events and for me more recently it was at a particular location.
I’ve been keen to eat organic vegetables for ages, and I’ve been, somewhat, all talk. I would go to the organic veggie section at my fruit & veg market, but they didn’t have everything I needed so I’d grab them from the non-organic section…99% of the shop.
Now I’m not being hard on myself, I’m being honest with you.
Susan, we didn’t have organic in our day, we just ate the fruit and vegetables that were put in front of us.
– Robyn Scollen (my Mum), 2019.
When I googled ‘what is organic’ 1,220,000,000 results came up – that’s a lot of results and a lot of opportunity to go down the rabbit hole, but I’m going to make it easy for you, so let’s dive in.
Yes my Mum’s right, they didn’t have organic in her day – they didn’t need to because in the main, they ate organic. Organic fruits and veg are straight from the farm, without any man-made chemicals or intervention.
She had an uncle turn up at their door every weekend with a box of fruit and veg for them to eat for the week. It had been home grown from multiple family farms and it was distributed to everyone.
To love what is, we can just accept where we’re at and move from that space. We often resist that though, because we’re:
We wonder how someone can love us when we can’t even love ourselves. We can’t see our own beauty and we sit in judgement, noticing our own faults first.
We choose to see what’s wrong over what’s right. We analysis how we aren’t a nice person, sometimes throwing in…but I can do it sometimes. Kinda off guard, flippant and dismissive.
We love that person because of what they believe about us. How they see us, and then we borrow that belief, because they’re a good person – they can’t be wrong…but perhaps they’re not right all the time, but we choose to believe.
We allow space for that love to grow, we anchor into what feels good and we enjoy the laughter – they see us and this can be scary. This is where vulnerability hurts. We can be vulnerable and risk that they won’t love us any more or we can be vulnerable and not like who we are.
Which one is tougher?
We know this acronym well but I always struggled with the last S – what about you? I let it slide for a while but something just wasn’t right. Calling myself or someone else ‘stupid’ didn’t make me feel good, so I stopped using the acronym until recently.
When we go on a journey, be it a relationship, weight loss, #selflove, working out, we put in a lot of effort. We turn up for ourselves every day and things that were important to us in the past, can lose their shine, so we let go.
Our journeys to self requires love, patience, kindness and through those things we create a sustainable approach to living. We find that when we create small habit changes, ones that come from love and are guided by our intuition, they anchor into us and we can continue to implement them – long after the decision is made.
The things that happen around us don’t matter so much any more, we see that when we let go of who we were, and we start to be come who we are, we want more – deeper conversations, deeper love, deeper self-respect, deeper alignment. We want to show up for ourselves more and more – regardless of what anyone else thinks.
When we turn up for ourselves every day, magical things happen – magical!!
But we struggle with it.
People look at me blankly when I tell them they need more #selflove in their lives. Here’s a conversation I have all the time 🙂
My Friend: What’s that??
When was the last time you made a big (or small) decision about your life?
When you made that decision what did you do to come to it? Did you:
